When I was in my 20's, ( which was, I admit 20 years or so ago)starting around April I spent almost every 2nd weekend at a wedding until mid September! Summer was definitely wedding season and I started shopping for wedding gifts at Boxing Day sales in preparation!
Two springs ago, while driving the kids somewhere, my 10 year old daughter stated that she had never been to a wedding! She sounded sad and in all honesty I was sad for her! Weddings are exciting for a 10 year old girl. The bride, the fancy dresses, the dancing.......but alas, no one's doing it anymore!!!
We have neices and nephews at that "marriage age" but they're living together......no weddings.
I told her that if she didn't get to go to a wedding sometime this summer we'd crash one!! Wouldn't you know it ( to prove that what you think about you bring about!) about 3 weeks later, we get an invitation to a wedding!!
A gay wedding!!! Gay marriage was just legallized in Alberta and two of my friends were going to be the first!!!
Imagine my delight when the conversation went like this......
Me " Hey guess what? We just got an invitation to a wedding!!"
My kids " Yippee!!"
Me " Um....this wedding is going to be a bit different though"
Kids " Why?"
Me " Well, it's two boys getting married"
Kids " And?....."
Me " Well, that's a little different"
Kids " Is there going to be a dance?"
Me " ya"
Kids " Yippee!!"
Yup, they were excited to be going to a wedding! They didn't seem at all phased by the gay part. To them it was two people getting married....it was just a party celebrating a marriage!
It was great! No different from many of the weddings I had been to. There was a lovely ceremony, a great buffet and a dance to follow! Mom of the groom cried, uncle of the other groom got too drunk! There were neices and nephews and brothers and sisters and gramma's and grandpa's and friends!
The speeches were great. A hilarious one about how the groom chose the perfect time to come out of the closet......at the moment when his brother phoned home from a Mexican jail! His parents couldn't get too mad at him then!!
A touching one where one of the grooms tearfully thanks his "stand in parents" for being so supportive and being there for him. His own missionary parents absent on this special day.
The kids had a blast, hubby and I had a blast and we all spoke often about how much fun it was.....and how "normal" it was. Really, a wedding is a wedding.
2 comments:
What a lovely way to bring up your children. Love is, as love does.
I love that our younger generations are so accepting of what is essentially a non-issue. That is of course, due to how they've been raised as well as how things have changed over time.
I've found that gay weddings can be some of the most joyful and appreciative due to the fact they haven't been available for very long. And as a friend of mine recently said, "it has been five years since gay marriage was legal (in Ontario and BC, 3 in Canada) and the world hasn't come to an end". :)
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